Saturday, April 3, 2010 3:19 PM
What wrong with the world seriously?Many people cannot live up to the vows they take on their wedding day, and they end up in divorce court.Just recently, one of my cousin got sued by his wife. For what? Family violence and sexual harassment. And none is true. She is the one being caught adultery. Out of selfishness and immaturity, she has the cheeks to manipulate stories on court for her child custody and flat. Sometimes, in cases good guy tend to meet the bad woman. And unknowingly, their wives have put on green hat for them.
But who suffers the most at the end?
The child.
This innocent little soul has not yet to know anything or ought to let her know.The truth is way too damaging for her growth. But as she grows she will realize, Daddy isn't Mummy's lover but someone else. Sooner or later, her mum going have kids with this man. For sure, she will feel sense of insecurity and imbalanced. Just like circling her mum, his man and their kids as a family . She totally out of the picture. No one and nothing can compensate this loss.
Furthermore, if she loves her child that much. She wouldn't have done something like this without any consideration. Repeating in messages telling the guy because of her child, things are more complicated to handle. This heartless woman is being too naive. She believed what his affair said to go against my cousin. What is his motive?Everyone knows. Urge her to get her child custody. Why? So that she can get the flat all by herself and he can gain something from it.
Somehow there too much divorcing cases happening within my relatives or even friends. And sadly to say there are more to come for our generations. I'm unsure because we are more westernize? Or things started off way too fast when both are mentally prepared for a family(shotgun)? I understand when you look at your parents, we don't know whether they still love each other or used to having each other(which already happen even on us in gf bf relationship ). It easy to start a relationship but it hard to maintain. Love is just a combination of complexity. There are way too much things to consider not just plain feeling is enough.
For me, I almost there to the door of happiness. But somehow, I'm afraid. I afraid of thinking things too perfect. What if things don't turn out well? I know it going be a huge blow for me. I'm trying to change. I gottan be married one day, no longer mummy or daddy's spoiled daughter. But will be someone's wife and my kids' mom. And things won't be under my control. Like I want it to be like this or that. It never going be me but us...
"When you love a person it does not mean that you would turn blind to all their shortcomings; rather it means you love them despite of it. When two people marry each one comes with certain expectation from their spouse, which when is not forthcoming becomes first a point of frustrating and then the instigation to be revengeful. You want to avoid reasons for divorce, you need to focus on what you can do for your spouse and marriage and allot a lower profile to what you should get from your spouse and marriage."
